Source: Career Contessa
Most resolutions are rooted in one simple thing – taking something that we don’t like about ourselves, our environment, our lives… and fixing it. Making it better.
So today, I’m going to share a confession. Something that I don’t like about myself. Then, more importantly, I’m going to share a resolution. My plan to fix it.
Last year, I started my first full-time job. It was exhilarating. I love my company and couldn’t wait to continue growing and learning there. So, I quickly threw myself into my work. It was – and still is – totally and completely rewarding. On the stressful days, I read inspiring posts on Career Contessa and Levo to remember the bigger picture, to keep my eyes on the prize. I worked as hard as I could, and did the best that I know how. I was determined not to take this amazing opportunity for granted. And it paid off! Professionally, I had a great year and feel very fulfilled.
It took a few months to realize something – my personal life was suffering. I was giving so much of myself to my work that I could no longer make friends a priority. I would completely forget to respond to text messages, would bail on plans because I couldn’t muster the energy or time to see them through. I didn’t make time for reading, writing and many other things that I love. I was struggling to find a sustainable work-life balance.
Slowly, I could feel people drifting away. This terrified me. My friends and I had just graduated from college and were leaving our parents’ homes, starting our new lives. We weren’t used to living so far apart, and we were learning that relationships take more work when there are miles between us. (Why did no one warn me about this?!)
I started to grasp at these relationships as much as I could, apologizing and promising that it would be better soon. As soon as I was settled and work calmed down. But, that time never came.
I don’t regret the hard work that I put into my job. I think it was necessary to give it my all. I learned a ton, formed strong professional relationships and really grounded myself. But I learned that it wasn’t sustainable. I was about to burn out, to lose motivation in both the professional and the personal sides of my life.
This leads me to…
This year, I will make time for my friends and family. I’ll proactively reach out to these wonderful people, ask them how they are doing. Make plans with them. Make sure they know that I care about them. Let them know that they always have been, and always will be, extremely important to me.
I will reserve energy, reserve a part of myself, for my personal life. I’ll make plans after work, on the weekends. I’ll do this because it will prevent a burnout. It will keep me healthy, keep me energized and running. Most importantly, it will keep these amazing people in my life.
So, that’s the plan. I can’t wait to see the amazing improvement that it has on all aspects of my life. Cheers to 2016!