Discovered this music video last night, teared up watching it, and knew that I had to share.
I highly encourage you to watch the video in its entirety, and listen to the lyrics. Really think about them – apply them to your life.
I know you’ve heard it a lot recently – you are beautiful; you don’t need makeup; don’t pay attention to the media – that version of “beauty” is unattainable and unhealthy. Dove has been releasing videos with this message. Lammily, a new doll boasting an average (i.e., normal) body, is getting a ton of publicity; her creator says that “average is beautiful”.
But, that message gets lost in a sea of Photoshop and Instagram filters.
So, in a world where we are inundated with mixed messages – scary-skinny models on magazine covers versus videos like the Dove Evolution – which will you listen to? Which are you exposed to more often? Which has been around longer?
Unrealistic, gorgeous models, probably.
The “average is beautiful” mentality is fairly new. It’s reactionary. It has gained traction as a response to the growing idea that the “Size 0, Perfect Hair and Flawless Skin Look” is achievable and expected.
“Average is beautiful” is the exception, not the rule, in media today. It’s not as common and it’s not as accepted. Yet.
I firmly believe that can change.
On that note, let’s talk about “Try” by Colbie Caillat.
She wrote the song in response to growing pressure to be someone she isn’t – both creatively and physically. On her way to the studio one day, she had her nails done. She picked out the perfect outfit. Her hair and makeup artist polished her look. It became too much, understandably, so her (male) friend encouraged her to write this song. And thank goodness for that, because it is powerful and wonderful.
I love the lyrics. She talks through the process that many women go through when getting ready – then challenges us to think about why we do it.
Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim so they like you; do they like you?
Well, do they? Does the perfect manicure, and whiter teeth, make others like you more? And if they do, well, what quality friendship are you gaining? (I added that… but I’m sure Colbie would ask the same.)
Wait a second,
Why should you care, what they think of you
When you’re all alone, by yourself,
Do you like you?
I love this. She took it a step further – a very important step. Do you like you? A question that is infinitely more important, though much more difficult, to ask. It’s so much easier to watch others and fit into their mold. Too easy to get caught up in that.
This is something that I have absolutely experienced, and struggled with. At some point, though, I had to ask myself: Do I like myself right now? Do I like who I am when I am with this person? If not, it’s time to move on.
It is crucial to consider this.
You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing…
Take your make up off
Let your hair down
Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself
Don’t you like you?
Cause I like you
Ending the song on a powerful note: I like you. You are wonderful, so please stay that way.